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Dear Family,

Following is a tentative draft of the order of the ceremony we have created, with some explanatory notes to show our thinking.  It is our hope to honor and incorporate our families' ideas.  If you have something important that you would like to see included, please let us know.

Since this is an internal document, I am going to continuously update it with the latest drafts and thoughts.

Love, Will and Lauren

Will and Lauren's Ceremony Program

PROCESSIONAL
"Lei Pikake" by Hapa
Solo guitarist.  Processional will include Susan, both sets of parents, both Will and Lauren, and bridal group (Ashley and Albert, Gina and Bill, Anna and Nathan)

CHANT OF BLESSING
Ryan McCormack, Cousin of the Bride
Excerpted from the “Pule Hōʻao,”  or traditional Hawaiian wedding prayer: 

O `imi`imi o nalowale a loa`a
Loa`a ho`i ka hoa ē
Pupu`u ako o ke anu o ka Ho`oilo
Na ke aloha i kono e hui `olua ē
Eia loa`a maha
O haka moe
O haka i ka lani
Pili `olua ē, hō`ao ē
Moku ka pawa o ke ao
Ke mōakāka nei ka hikina
Ua hiki ho`i lā nui

WELCOME
Susan Mollway
(BRIDE AT MY RIGHT) We are gathered here today under this sky, beside this ocean, and in the presence of family and friends for a very special occasion: The wedding ceremony of Will and Lauren.  They thank you, the special people in their lives, for coming and sharing in this occasion as they become partners for life.

Today we have gathered in this place of beauty in celebration of the relationship of Will and Lauren.  In the translated words of Ryan’s oli:

Here all seeking is over, the lost has been found,
A mate has been found
To share the chills of winter
Now love asks that you be united.
Here is a place to rest,
A place to sleep,
A place in heaven.

We’ll now have a reading by Ashley.

SHAKESPEARE READING
Ashley Uyeshiro

As You Like It by William Shakespeare
Act V, Scene 2

There was never anything so sudden.  For your brother, and my sister, no sooner met, but they look’d; no sooner look’d, but they lov’d; no sooner lov’d, but they sigh’d; no sooner sigh’d but they ask’d one another the reason; no sooner knew the reason, but they sought the remedy: and in these degrees, have they made a pair of stairs to marriage, which they will climb incontinent, or else be incontinent before marriage: they are in the very wrath of love and they will together.  Clubs cannot part them.

What ‘tis love?
It is to be all made of sighs and tears,
It is to be all made of faith and service,
It is to be all made of fantasy,
All made of passion, and all made of wishes,
All adoration, duty, and observance,
All humbleness, all patience, and impatience,
All purity, all trial, all observance.

GIFT OF LEI TO PARENTS & LEI EXCHANGE
Susan Mollway
Will and Lauren will give lei to the other's parents, representing their gratitude for raising each of them, and their promise to take good care of that parents' child.  

They will also exchange lei in greeting to each other.  Lauren's Pikake Lei is a traditional bridal flower because of its similarity to pearls and its heavenly scent.  Will's Maile Lei is also a traditional wedding lei. It signifies respect and honor, and their commitment to each other. 

[Guitar interlude]

We’ll now have a reading by Nathan.

TAO READING 
Nathan Alldredge

"Always Return"
from The Couple's Tao Te Ching

It is good to know your strength
but always return to your flexibility.
If you can cradle your beloved in your arms
in nurturing gentleness,
love will flow through you.

It is good to achieve things
but always return to anonymity.
Your beloved does not need your achievements
but needs your uncomplicated soul.

It is good to work for change,
but always return to what is.
If you accept all things whether painful or joyful,
you will always know
that you belong to each other
and to the Tao.

Return today,
to that which brings you life:
enfolding, caressing,
soothing, nurturing,
forgiving, and accepting.

SAND CEREMONY
Susan Mollway
Will and Lauren will take cups of sand given to them by their parents, and pour the sand into one Koa bowl, signifying the joining of their families and lives. 

[Guitar interlude]

EXCHANGE OF VOWS AND RINGS
Susan Mollway
Marriage is the mutual commitment of two people sincerely in love; it is the sharing of lives. You will see each other as no one else sees you.  This is the most difficult part of love; it means that each of you must lay down your guard and communicate as openly and honestly as possible.  Its rewards are boundless. 

Love is also the understanding you feel for one another right now.  Remember it.  Take joy in it. Only you two can give this to one another.  You are each other’s first consideration, first priority, and first responsibility.  This is a deep and everlasting gift only people in love can share.  

There will be times of stress and sacrifice, of discouragement and despair.  Face these moments together and overcome them with the same love and commitment from which your fonder memories were created.

With this love for one another in our hearts, let us turn to the vows that will seal this marriage.

[Will and Lauren – but please prompt us, Auntie Susan!]

I, Lauren, choose you, Will, to be my husband.
I will respect you, care for you, and grow with you,
Through good times and hard times,
As your friend, companion, and partner,
Giving my very best,
To fulfill our lives together. 

I, Will, choose you, Lauren, to be my wife.
I will respect you, care for you, and grow with you,
Through good times and hard times,
As your friend, companion, and partner,
Giving my very best,
To fulfill our lives together. 

May I have the rings, please?  From the earliest times, the circle has been a symbol of completeness, a symbol of committed love.  An unbroWILL and never-ending circle symbolizes a commitment of love that is also never ending.  As often as either of you looks at this symbol, I hope that you will be reminded of today’s commitment to love each other. 

WILL, as you place this ring on LAUREN’s finger, please repeat after me:

LAUREN, I give you this ring, as a symbol of my commitment to love, honor, and respect you.  With you I have found love, happiness, and a best friend.

LAUREN, as you place this ring on WILL’s finger, please repeat after me.:

WILL I give you this ring, as a symbol of my commitment to love, honor, and respect you.  With you I have found love, happiness and a best friend.

PRESENTATION OF THE COUPLE
Susan Mollway
TO THE GUESTS: This is a moment of celebration.  Let it also be a moment of dedication.  Every marriage needs the love, nurture, and support of friends and family.  On this wedding day I ask you not only to be friends of LAUREN & WILL, but friends of LAUREN & WILL together.  

Rejoice under the blue sky, feel the wind, taste the water, and smell the fresh earth.  May this beauty enter your bodies, fill your hearts, and bless your lives.  

WILL AND LAUREN, may the love you have found grow in meaning and strength until its beauty is shown in a common devotion to all that is life-giving.  May your love brighten the face of the earth.  To all gathered here today, may love touch and bless all of you and grace your lives with color and courage.

Before this gathering of family and friends, LAUREN & WILL have promised each other their love and have given each other rings to wear as a sign of their deep commitment.  Therefore I, with the authority given to me by the State of Hawaii, now pronounce you husband and wife. Congratulations! You may kiss!

RECESSIONAL
"Jesu, Joy of Man's Desiring" by JS Bach


Between the Ceremony and Reception
Will and Lauren:  Stay on the beach with Garrett Nose to take pictures

Ellen, John, Anna, Nathan, Soren:  My guess is that you're going to want to get on one of the early buses so that you can have time to go to your room before the reception starts?  Please meet at the front entrance of the Lodge right before 7:00 PM.

Donna, Robin, Ashley, Eugenie, Bill, Albert:  Please help to get guests onto the buses as quickly as possible.  Get on the buses yourself, but when you get to the Lodge, stay at the front entrance until right before 7:00 PM.

Ryan, Scott, Vishal:  Also get on the buses yourself, but 
when you get to the Lodge, stay at the front entrance until right before 7:00 PM.

Reception Entrance, 7:00 PM
Will and Lauren will meet everyone at the front entrance of the Lodge right before 7:00 PM.

Order of entrance: 
  • Scott and Vishal, conch shells
  • Ryan
  • Ellen and John
  • Donna and Robin
  • Anna and Nathan
  • Gina and Bill
  • Ashley and Albert
  • Will and Lauren
Sequence:
  • Guests arriving at the Lodge will be enjoying cocktails at the croquet garden
  • Guests will be asked to be seated at the Pineapple Fountain right before 7:00 PM
  • [Scott and Vishal]: Conch shell blow 1) at the front entrance of the hotel, 2) the back entrance of the hotel; split and run around the pineapple fountain; 3) on the dance floor facing the guests
  • [Ryan]: Welcome chant
  • Start "Ku'u Home O Kahalu'u" --
    • 8 - hold
    • 8 - DJ announces the wedding party
    • 8 - Ellen and John enter, are announced, sit at their table
    • 8 - Donna and Robin enter, are announced, sit at their table
    • 4 - HOLD
    • 10 - Anna and Nathan enter, are announced, take their place on the dancefloor
    • 10 - Gina and Bill enter, are announced, take their place on the dancefloor
    • 10 - Ashley and Albert enter, are announced, take their place on the dancefloor
    • 10 - Will and Lauren enter, are announced, take their place on the dancefloor
    • Start Verse 1
  • Start dinner
For the remaining schedule, see the Wedding Info spreadsheet under "Schedule."

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